Lead!  Who Me?

Pastor Jay Victory

Community Group Guide

Summary:  In today's culture there are many areas we can look at to define a husband's/father's role in this world and in the family: the internet, T.V., and other men in a variety of settings.  As followers of Christ we are to look at God's word to define our roles as He is the original designer of the family.  His Word and definition of the family is consistent in an ever changing culture.

Exodus 3,4 (selected passages).  Moses, although reluctant at first, was used by God to deliver God's people out of slavery and oppression.

1.  In Exodus 3:1-14 & 4:1,10,13 we see God calling Moses to lead His children out of slavery.  Moses wasn't exactly sure of his ability to do so.  Why was Moses tentative at first?  What excuses did he offer?  What was God's reply?
2.  Is leading a family in today's world a daunting task as well?  Why or why not?
3.  Why is it important for men to protect and provide for their families?  Does this mean that the wife or mom does not help do either? (no, we work together, but God has placed the primary responsibility of protection and provision on the husband's shoulders).
4.  Why do you think God calls us to be committed to family?
4b.  What did God do through Moses' obedience and sacrifice?  What difference can be made in families and the world can be made through men who are surrendered to God and sacrifice for their families?


Sermon Notes

Exodus Passages

For several weeks we have been going through a teaching on marriage and family.
Why?  Because, as Christians, we look to Scripture for our primary guidance in life.
Why?  Many times there are distinct differences between the prevalent culture, the government (no matter which one) and God's word.  In those cases we take our direction, whether it's popular or not, from God's word.
Culture changes. God's Word does not.
What this sermon is not

We've already covered women, children & singles.  Today it's the men's turn.
What does the Bible say about men, the role of men in and out of the family? What does God, the Creator and Ruler of the Universe, expect from us?  There's only one place to find these answers...Facebook.  Just kidding
It's not easy being a guy in today's world...vid

Highlight the differences in roles and use it as a springboard into the message

Sometimes we look at a particular passage and break it down.  At other times we look at a principle or a broad passage.  Today we look at a man in the Bible.  We will learn from his example, his call, his good times and the bad.
Let's Pray

Meanwhile, Moses was shepherding the flock of his father-in-law, Jethro, the priest of Midian.  He led the flock to the far side of the wilderness and came to Horeb, the mountain of God.

Then the Angel of the Lord appeared to him in a flame of fire within a bush.  As Moses looked, he saw that the bush was on fire but was not consumed.  So Moses thought: I must go over and look at this remarkable sight.  Why isn't the bush being consumed?

When The Lord saw that he had gone over to look, God called out to him from the bush, "Moses, Moses!"  "Here I am," he answered.

"Do not come any closer," He said.  "Remove the sandals from your feet, for the place where you are standing is holy ground."  Then He continued, "I am the God of your father, the God of Abraham, the God of Isaac, and the God of Jacob."  Moses hid his face because he was afraid to look at God.

Then the Lord said, "I have observed the misery of My people in Egypt, and have heard them crying out because of their oppressors, and I know their sufferings.  I have come down to rescue them from the power of the Egyptians and to bring them from that land to a good and spacious land, a land flowing with milk and honey -

The territory of the Canaanites, Hittites, Amorites, Perizzites, Hivites, and Jebusites.  The Israelites' cry for help has come to Me, and I have also seen the way the Egyptians are oppressing them.  Therefore, go.  I am sending you to Pharaoh so that you may lead My people, the Israelites, out of Egypt."

Moses: Reluctant leader who changed the world.

Minding his own business.  Tending sheep.
Zipporah and Gershom back at the tent.
It was a simple/easy life far away from Pharaoh who wanted to kill him.
But God sees the bigger picture

vs 11: Who am I that I should go to Pharaoh and bring them out of Egypt?
vs 13:  What if they ask who sent me?
vs 4:1: What if they don't believe me or obey me?
vs 4:10: I'm not eloquent.  I'm slow and hesitant in speech.
vs 4:13: Lord, please send someone else!

vs 12: I'll be with you
vs 14-18: I AM sent you
vs 4:2-9: Staff, hand, blood from water
vs 4:11: Who made your mouth?
vs 4:14: God gets fed up.  Tells him to man up and get his brother Aaron to go with him.

God saw His children suffering in slavery and oppression.
God sees the bigger picture for you, your life and your family.
He sees what needs to happen to get them from where they are to where He knows they should be and He knows the role you need to play.

Exodus 15,16

Ch 15:  Water:  Moses throws the tree into the water.  God purifies the water.
Ch 16:  Manna & Quail.  Moses did what he needed to do, but it was God's grace and provision that made it possible.

The Suitcase and the Lunchbox

Men.  It's part of our God-given role to provide for our family.
This does not mean that our wives do not or cannot work alongside us to provide.  What it does mean is that when the chips are down, God has not only equipped us to provide but has commanded us to do so.
If your family needs food.  It's on you.
If your family needs shelter.  It's on you.
A safe and good environment for the family?  It's on you.

If you ask a woman to join you on this journey of life and you commit to be there in sickness and in health, for richer or poorer, till death do you part, and based upon that commitment to be there, you agree to bring children into this world...those children are your responsibility.
At the very least you are committing to the finances for provision, but in the bigger scheme of things, you are committing to be their father.  To love their mom.  To be there day in and day out.
If you are not ready to make this commitment then you should not be doing anything to bring a child into this world.
If you have children and a wife, God's command is to love, provide and...

Exodus 14:10-14
vs 10:  They cried out to God for help
vs 11-12:  They immediately looked to Moses... but gave him kind of a hard time.
13-14:  Moses reassures the people.              Encourages them to stand firm.
15: Find out that Moses had cried to God also

Usually it is understood that it's the husband's/father's job to go check out the bumps in the night.  Doesn't mean that:
He is thrilled about it or isn't worried
That the wife can't swing a bat or pull a trigger
Just means that it's understood it's the husband's primary responsibility to protect
** The one time in 20 yrs when I awoke from a dead sleep when my wife heard "something"

As husbands and fathers we know the world is a dangerous place.  We are the first line of defense against bumps in the night, thieves, people who wish to do our family harm, those who would mislead, take advantage of or harass.
Dads even watch out for the daughters with the good guys:)
God has placed you in a position to protect and provide

The Call to Obedience and Sacrifice

The Israelites were delivered out of slavery and oppression
A Pharaoh and his army were defeated
A promise was fulfilled to God's people
Lives were changed forever
The promised land was claimed and the Israelites are there today

In the lobby and in the back there is a story of young lady who came from a family who "fought hard for their sons"

I was blessed to be surrounded by good men as a young girl. Men who loved their families, worked hard, served others
faithfully, and stood for something greater than themselves. Men who sacrificed so their families could have the
best, and taught their children to work hard and protect what they believed in.

If husbands and fathers respond to the call to be obedient to God and sacrifice for their families... what can happen?

Your wife was happy, secure, loved, and respected?
Your children felt loved, secure and prepared to face the world? Ready to follow your example and give more than they received.  
That would be a life well lived.

So Moses
    Was called to lead and responded to the call
    Was called to provide and protect the family of God
    Lived a life of obedience and sacrifice for the family

It's not an easy world or culture for us or our families, but that means it's all the more important to have strong families - strong moms and strong dads.
Today some of this message has been challenging but we do these things together...as God's family.  The more mature helping the younger.  Men helping men grow and stay accountable to the call.